Most difficult relation

Who decides what’s best for us?

When we are born into this big bad world, we are provided natural guardians in form of our parents. Right from feeding us to cleaning our poop, they do everything for us. And along with that they try their level best to instill good thoughts and manners. They teach us (or rather try to) what is good and bad. But ultimately what you do when you grow up is totally your will and wish.

No matter how much they try to tell us and teach us that fire will burn and send a sharp pain through you, you still wanna touch it and experience it before you actually believe, ya it really does hurt. (How many times have I tried to catch the burning candle wick. I can still hear my mom's scolding.)

Kids are like an investment parents make. But the profit and returns and risks associated are very different from your Reliance and TATA AIG investments. Here risks are very high. Their kid’s life is at risk if they do not take proper care of their investments. Whereas returns are almost negligible coz no matter how good they might have been we still manage to find faults with them somehow (amazing na). The only profit is seeing their kids live a happy and settled life.


Somehow the concept of "Parents be Child's best friend" doesn't convince me. A child's best friend should be one among his peer, with whom he can relate to easily. Whereas parents should be someone whom he looks upto while growing up and enriching his life with the anecdotes and learnings of life. Parents need to be at authority to make us understand at times the right from wrong. They love us unconditionally and make us feel special each and every moment of our life. We need their tough love and discipline at times to make us a better person. How else can life be transpired through an insignificant wood and make it a wonderful piece of art. And the best part is that even if this piece of art becomes a distorted figure they still love it as if there is nothing more beautiful than that distorted figure.
At the same time close relationship and open communication is most important for this relationship to stay connected life long. They should respect the child's individuality and help him make right choices but not force their choices on the kid. They should say "Enough is enough" at the same time let the kids follow their dreams and passions.

It sounds so tough, I wonder how our parents did it without even showing a strain to us.
How can such a relationship be defined.